During my simplicity parenting workshop this weekend we were exploring our personal parenting style. Parenting styles can morph with time, experience, life. For instance, with Edie we were way less structured and super attached as in she went where we went, stayed up as late as we did, slept in until whenever. With Kale, now that I think about it, our approach has taken a complete 180. So much so at times it feels our days have a tinge of the Groundhog Day effect (the Bill Murray movie from the nineties; not being easily spooked by our shadows).
When Craig asked me what I got up to while he was away all week all that really stood out was make breakfast, clean up, make lunch, clean up, make dinner, clean up and get the kids in bed. Of course there were in between highlights but that there is the heartbeat of our lives together and I love it and, to be honest, in some aspects was what I clung to to keep from losing it while Craig was gone.
But what I especially love in our daily rhythm is getting to hang out with Craig once the kids are tucked in, safe at sound, lights out at 8:00 (I am striving to ease this more toward seven so we can enjoy even more hang out time. Mama gets sleepy by 9:00 these days!).
I was hoping to capture a rich exchange between Craig and I about this special time in our lives but he says doesn't want to 'be in the cloud' (paranoia will destroya I told him), so instead I had to play his role. Again.
What do you do once the kids are in bed? If you simply pass out like I used to, do you have another time for connection with your partner?